April 3, 2012 at 3:08 am 1 comment

Is there anything actually wrong with flirting? And why is it that girls are allowed to, and not boys? Well, here are the answers coming from both a semi-flirt and a ‘sensitive to every move you make’, girl.

1. First of all, do not tell me that you have never flirted. Because I know you have, whoever you are. Everyone flirts, whether they realize it or not, and everyone flirts in one way or another: Whether it’s complimenting, getting their attention with hugs and playful punches, showing off, laughing at everything they say, or just spending most of your time with that person. Ok, now that we’ve established that you have flirted, I’ll move on.

2. There’s nothing wrong with flirting: But there is a time and a place for it. And in front of your girlfriend/boyfriend isn’t it, as it is neither sensitive, nor smart.  Neither is flirting when your boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t around. But as the likely hood of the latter never happening is small, we’ll just talk about the first one.  So, if you’re wondering if flirting is ok, then yes, it is. Flirting can get you the guy or girl in the first place, and why not have a little fun.

3. Girls are insecure, we know how guys can get carried away, and we also know what lurks behind the mind of every female who bats her eyes at our man. Honestly, we’re a pretty scary sight when jealousy and insecurity mix, and when our overprotective mode switches to ‘full blast.’ We are likely to win any fight against the girl who smiles and winks at our lover, because of all the adrenaline pumping through us. Guys, on the other hand, seem to lack the insecure gene. Oh sure, there are probably a lot of guys who get insecure. But they are less likely to freak out about their girlfriend flirting with another guy: Rather, they shrug it off, giving the appearance of a calm gentleman who has full confidence in his girl. Girls can give this appearance but it’s likely to affect their mood.

4. I haven’t been able to really find any reason for why girls are allowed to flirt when they are in a relationship, and why guys can’t. I’m biased of course, but I also have to be fair: The only explanation for why we girls say that guys cannot flirt is because we’re too insecure. Yes, it is the men’s responsibility to not make us feel that way, but some of our insecurity comes from our taking a small comment and blowing it out of proportion.

Finally, I should admit that I deal almost everyday with tweaks of envy or insecurity. I am a, “Say one thing to that girl over there, and I will immediately watch you like a hawk”, girl. There’s nothing wrong with being a little protective of your man…but I have the feeling that all of us could use a little confidence. Now when I hear a certain someone hanging out with a few friends who happen to be ladies, I try to push any jealous thoughts aside, and proceed with my life. It makes things a whole lot easier, in the end. And to the guys out there: Kindly don’t give us any reason to be jealous.


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